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Not sure why or how, Bunny Gal develops the new passion of lining up her toys in a straight line and then mess it up and repeat it again. Bunny Mum just can’t help but wonder what so fun about it. Bunny Gal does it with blocks, sticks, figurines, soft toys, etc. She can go on and on repeating the same process and still feel excited about it.

Can you see how focus and concentrate she is in lining her toys up?

Bunny Mum was told that those kids with OCD are into arranging everything in a same order and I can’t help to wonder whether Bunny Gal is showing some signs of OCD especially she is into washing her hand very often and can’t stand a single dirt on the floor where she will pick it up and make us throwing it. She is also into using tissue wiping anything everything and still claim it is dirty. Dirty, wipe wipe, throw, wash wash are her favourite words. She even told Bunny Gong Gong “Gong Gong dirty, no wash wash brush brush” as Bunny Gong Gong got up to her bed before brushing his teeth.

After thinking twice, Bunny Mum doubts it since Bunny Gal is never an organized Bunny as she leaves her toys everywhere and anywhere not till Bunny Mum seeks her help to clean up by singing the “Let’s put the toys away” song.

All these while, Bunny Gal will wave wave her hand at us whenever we leave at around 11pm every night (weekdays). Recently she is getting more attached to us especially Bunny Mum. She can sense that we want to leave soon and she will find ways to keep us in the house even though it means by FORCE!

The usual ritual would be changing Bunny Gal into pajamas and diapers and prepare supper (milk) for her to drink. She will instruct  Bunny Mum to sit next to her by pointing at the stool next to her bed and say “Mummy, sit sit ah” as she knows she might lose me for the night if I get out of her sight. What a smart bunny I have here. If Bunny Mum ever step out of the room, she will immediately bounce up from her bed, abandon her unfinished milk and rush out while yelling “mummy ah..mummy ah…” to stop me from leaving. Haiz… It is so heart-ache seeing her crying as we leave Bunny Gong Gong house every night.

Sometime she can sense that we might need to leave earlier than usual, she will make Bunny Mum and Bunny Dad to sit down or to hug her where she will then lock her hand around our neck! Another trick we used on her would be bringing her to the bathroom to wash her hand (her favourite) where Bunny PoPo will take over and Bunny Mum will have to run for life before Bunny Gal is done with her hand washing ritual.

My Angel
Watching her sleeping peaceful is my biggest reward!

2 weeks ago both Bunny Mum and Bunny Dad were very busy at work (worked till quite late) and didn’t manage to go back to Bunny Gong Gong’s house to visit Bunny Gal as usual. She missed us like crazy till she dreamed about us and shouting “Mummy! Mummy!” during her afternoon nap.

Bunny Mum seriously wonder how many time she can play the same old trick with Bunny Gal as she is getting smarter each day. Maybe we should bring her home every night from next year onward and send her to a nursery near our office in the morning while Bunny Gong Gong will pick her after class… Not sure whether it is too tiring for Bunny Gal having to wake up at 6am getting ready to Nursery plus get stuck in traffic jam everyday after all she is not even 3 by Jan 2012. Still need a lot of consideration before we can make up our mind.

Bunny Gal is no longer be classified as “Infant”  as she has officially hitting the Terrible 2 on last Friday.

In fact, she has already acting as one since few weeks ago! She started off with the following :

  1. Refuse to take bath by keeping saying “No”
  2. Refuse to get up from the bathtub
  3. Refuse to change diapers/clothes
  4. Refuse to get onto the stroller
  5. Sudden addiction to pacifier
  6. Spilling out food after a few chews
  7. Throwing things/toys on the floor when she throws tantrum

This oppositional behaviors got worse during our Europe trip. Since we have been quite lenient to her throughout the trip and gave in to some of her “unreasonable” demand/request with the fear that she may go out of control in foreign land PLUS she was down with E. Coli virus for a few days.

Other than the oppositional behaviors, Bunny Gal also pick up some good habits such as follows:

  1. Keep her toys after she is done with it but we must remind her to do so at time.
  2. Return and arrange the items she took from the display shelve in the toy shop after she checked it out and never demand us to buy for her.
  3. Say “please” when she needs our help
  4. Share her toys with others
  5. Demand to wash and wipe her hand whenever it’s dirty
  6. Pick up rubbish and say “dirty” then pass it to us for disposal
  7. Cover her mouth when she sneezes – but most of the time she only remember doing so after she has sneezed

Last but the MOST important change in Bunny Gal’s  life is that she fall in love with Barney – the purple dino! She is deeply, madly truly in love with him. She can watch the same Barney show repeatingly without getting bored. She sings and dance along. She learns new words, numbers, action, counting, etc from the show more than from Bunny Mum. She sleeps with Barneys (yes, it’s more than ONE). She even brought one of her Barneys to Europe – what a lucky dino! And how can Bunny Mum forgets that Bunny Gal called “Barney” first before she starts calling Bunny Mum “Mummy”!!!!! Barney comes 1st and everything else come after Barney.

 

Conversation No 1

Bunny Gal : Yea…yea…[tapping Bunny Mum’s arm]

Bunny Mum : Yes baby? What can I do for you?

Bunny Gal : Yea…yea…cap cap [clapping her hands]

Bunny Mum : [Singing] If you’re happy and you know it, clap your hands

Bunny Gal : Cap Cap [clapping her hand with a big smile on her face]

Bunny Mum : [Singing] If you’re happy and you know it, clap your hands

Bunny Gal : Cap Cap [clapping her hand while bouncing on the sofa]

Bunny Mum : [Singing] If you’re happy and you know it, then your face will surely show it. If you’re happy and you know it, clap your hands

Bunny Gal : Cap Cap [clapping her hand while bouncing even harder]

Bunny Gal : [Yelling] Yeah [clapping]

Bunny Mum : Hug Hug ?

Bunny Gal : [Hug mummy tight]

Conversation No 2

Bunny Gal : Yea…yea…[tapping Bunny Mum’s arm]

Bunny Mum : Yes baby? What can I do for you?

Bunny Gal : Yea…yea…Ahh Ahh Ahh

Bunny Mum : [Singing] If all the raindrops were lemon-drops and gum-drops, oh, what a rain that would be. Standing outside with my mouth open wide…

Bunny Gal : Ahh Ahh Ahh Ahh Ahh Ahh

Bunny Mum : [Singing] If all the raindrops were lemon-drops and gum-drops, oh, what a rain that would be.

Bunny Gal : [Yelling] Yeah [clapping]

Bunny Mum : Hug Hug ?

Bunny Gal : [Hug mummy tight]

Bunny Gal will be 20 months old in 2 days time! Bunny Mum and Bunny Dad took Bunny Gal for her routine vaccination yesterday morning. It seems that Bunny Gal has finally achieved the 10kg/80cm mark with her latest measurement of 10.2kg/81cm. She has been growing steadily at around 30 percentile and she has been hitting all her milestones. Somehow, Bunny Mum is of the opinion that despite Bunny Gal is very advanced in her physical & motor skill development, she seems slow in her linguistics development. However, the Paed thinks Bunny Gal is doing well! If so, then just let it be as every kid has its own phase in learning new skills.

Let’s list down words that Bunny Gal can pronounce todate:

  1. Gong Gong – “Grandpa” in Mandarin
  2. Po Po – “Grandma” in Mandarin
  3. Ba Ba
  4. Ma Ma
  5. Daddy
  6. Jiu Jiu –  Bunny Mum’s Brother
  7. Banie aka “Barney”
  8. Dak Dak aka “Duck”
  9. Woo Woo / Dok aka “Dog”
  10. Wei Wei – the name of our Poodle
  11. Boo Boo – the name of our Pekingese
  12. Ji Ji – imitating the sound of the birds
  13. Dop aka “Drop”
  14. Nie Nie aka “Nice Nice”
  15. Ter-tie aka “Dirty”
  16. Chou Chou – “smelly” in Mandarin where she meant she has pooped
  17. Bao Bao – “Full” or “Hug” in Mandarin. If she says it while hitting her tummy, it means she is full. Alternately, she will say it with her arm open wide and grab us.
  18. Cap Cap aka “Clap Clap”
  19. Kah Kah aka “Car Car”
  20. Wa Wa – “Doll” in Mandarin.
  21. Ball Ball
  22. Gai – “Cover” in Mandarin
  23. Fish
  24. Deng Long – “Lantern” in Mandarin
  25. No
  26. Yea aka “Yes”

Besides that, Bunny Gal can understand instructions very well. For example:

  1. When she is asked to bring an object (i.e. a ball) from one person (ie Bunny Dad) to another person (Bunny Gong Gong), she will take the object from the right person and bring it to the right person too.
  2. When she is asked to pick up an object (ie her toy) and placed it in a bag, she will do it as told if she feels like doing it. Else she will just ignore us and continue playing with her toys.

Bunny Mum would also like to announce 2 big achievements of Bunny Gal:

Self feeding w/o assistance
Bunny Gal is able to feed herself during meal time w/o our assistance.

No more  walking harness
Bunny Gal has graduated from using walking harness and now she will walk holding our hand! Unfortunately, she has a rather “rough” walking style – check out the way she swings her hand when she walks in the video clips below!

Bunny Gal is 19 months old today and it is always Bunny Dad and Bunny Mum’s intention to start her on ONE enrichment class/playgroup with simple objectives as follows:

  1. improve social skills with adults and other kids
  2. learn to take in instructions
  3. have fun – songs & dances, art & craft
  4. group activities

We do not wish to burden Bunny Gal with various classes or any homework at such a young age.  We also noticed that Bunny Gal tends to learn faster from living examples and via our conversation instead of books or flashcards. She can understand us very well in both English and Mandarin plus recently she will repeat after us whenever we teach her simple words by pointing at the object. In addition, she has been very pro-active nowadays where she will also point at different objects and says “see..” – her way of asking us “What is this?”. This gives us great opportunities to teach her new words!

Back to the enrichment class selection. Basically there are few different approaches in KL market :

Right brain / Flashcards Approach

Using Flashcards to give appropriate brain stimulation to bring out the innate human abilities such as: photographic memory, creativity, perfect pitch in music, multi-languages for language mastery and lightning rapid calculation abilities. Parents are required to carry out proposed course related activities with their kids at home everyday for at least 30 minutes. Examples : Shichida, Heguru and Glenn Doman

Remarks : No doubt that flashcards good learning tools for a reason and Bunny Gal loves to play with the iPad version on and off but we never and do not intend to set a time slot for flashcards on daily basis like some parents do. We just want Bunny Gal to have fun and strictly no homework!

Playgroup / Babygym Approach

Allow kids to have fun, explore, acquire skills, experience success, and build self-esteem through active play experience such as baby gym, songs, etc. Examples : Gymboree and Kizsport

Remarks : Bunny Gal didn’t enjoy the trial class at Kizsport – she was totally lost control and not following the class at all. We also skipped Gymboree as we were rather turned off by their hard sell marketing strategy.

Musical Approach

Introduce and educate kids to the adventure of music then moves at her pace, pausing to engage her interests, nurture her gifts and celebrates her discoveries. Examples : Kindermusik, Musikgarden and Musikhauz

Remarks : Didn’t manage to attend the trial class as planned. Some friends and relatives recommended this approach based on their own experience. A less stressful of learning (vs flashcards based) w/o going wild (playgroup based).

Learning Center Approach

Classes are conducted in a classroom with a collection of activities and materials for kids to explore and play with independently, individually or in groups, or with teacher’s direction. Examples : Julia Gabriel and Lorna Whistorn

Remarks : Julie Gabriel has weekly bilingual Play Club for 18 months till 2.5 years old with a curriculum structured around letters of the alphabet and key Mandarin words, numbers, shapes and colours – all organised in interesting child-centred themes and translated through activities such as indoor and outdoor play, music, art and craft, hands-on pre-science activities, stories, speech, drama and snack. BTW Lorna Whistorn is no longer running classes for kid below 4 years old (unable to renew the licence – not sure why), not an option for us at all.

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Based on the remarks listed above, one can easily figured out that Julia Gabriel is the winner of ” Bunny Enrichment Class Contest”. Bunny Gal had just attended her 1st class on last Saturday and clearly she had lots of fun. Pictures sound louder than words.

Warming up and observing what’s others are doing.

Clapping while yelling “yeah!”

Bunny Gal’s 1st Artwork – maybe Bunny Mum should frame it up!

Guess what’s in the goodie bag?

Everything comes with a price tag… RM1,625 for a start and only good for a 10-week term

Lately Bunny Gal has been very cranky during her meal time. The same Bunny’s song & dance will show up during meal time:

  1. turning her head away after 5-6 spoons of solid;
  2. demand to drink soup non-stop;
  3. struggle to release herself and stand on the highchair – not till we pin her down or give her some toys of her interest; and/or
  4. at time might refuse to sit on the highchair.

This song & dance is only applicable to MAIN MEAL and not snacks like cakes, pastries, breads, puffs, biscuits, etc.

It has been a torture to Bunny PoPo who has to feed her 2 main meals a day, 5 days a week and even Bunny Mum is getting frustrated over it despite only taking care of Bunny Gal over the weekends. Bunny Mum has to bake every weekends, if possible, so that Bunny Gal have homemade snacks to munch.

After a few trials and errors, we noticed that she will eat the same food that she had just rejected earlier on if we leave her with the bowl of food and spoon for self feeding. Despite messy, she will at least “finished” the solid (perhaps 20-30% will end up on the floor or table). I must say that Bunny Gal’s self feeding skill is getting better each day where she does well with spoon and now even with fork. Of course, at time she will cheat by grabbing the food with her hand and put on the spoon before moving it to her mouth. She will even pick up the food dropped on the table and place it back to the bowl – not sure whether it’s a good sign or not. It’s good for not wasting food BUT it’s rather not too hygiene if the table is not clean (not at home). Nowadays beside wiping the highchair with antiseptic wipes, we also clean the table as well whenever we dine out.

Alternatively, we have to feed her with our spoon/fork/chopstick instead of hers. Somehow she feels that we are eating BETTER and more DELICIOUS food than hers.Same theory applies to water/drinks too. Bunny Gal will insist of drinking from our glass (if she sees it) instead of hers. If I pretend to pour some of my drinks into her cup, she will then drink from her cup.

Hmm….really wonder what’s going on in her tiny little bunny brain…

Has anyone watched an old movie called “My Father the Hero” before ? It was starred by Gérard Depardieu, Katherine Heigl and Dalton James.

Every father would hope to be regarded by their daughter as the hero. Of course, Bunny Dad is not an exception. Unfortunately, Bunny Gal is way to young to appreciate this hero of hers the way Bunny Dad would like her to be. Instead of regarding him as Hero, she has given him a new role……. My Daddy the Pillow!!!

Bunny Gal has developed a bad habit of waking up in the middle of the night crying for Bunny Dad’s shoulder! Poor Bunny Dad will have to carry her (as shown in the picture above) till she is in deep sleep before he can put her back to her cot. There are many instances where Bunny Dad placed her on her cot, she cried at top of her voice till Bunny Dad rest her on his shoulder.

Bunny Mum always wonder whether she should be happy that she can sleep throughout the night as Bunny Gal will only want Bunny Dad’s shoulder. On the flip side, it also mean that Bunny Mum is ranked below Bunny Dad’s shoulder.

Bunny Mum has been an active member in a local parenting forum. Lately there are a lot of posts about consuming supplements pre and during pregnancy as well as supplements for the babies/toddlers. A friend of mine has been asking questions about maternal milk and pregnancy supplements as his wife is pregnant.

I am never a believer nor supporter of supplements. Nothing better than nutrient in its natural form. I met a lady who kind of relying on supplements in her day-to-day nutrients intake. She eats very little during her meal time and mostly vegetables only in order to keep slim. After every meal, she will pop all sorts of pills and powders (protein, calcium, multi-vit, lingzhi, etc) to achieve balanced diet. I got shocked in my life after witnessing that. And yes, she is super skinny and she calls herself being “healthy” and she has been going round preaching about her optimal diet plan.

We might be busy at work and have no time to cook BUT there are many food options  for us to choose from which will give us a more balanced diets. On days where we have “economy rice” as lunch, we can opt for 2 portion of vegetables, 1 portion of meat (steam/stir fried instead of deep-fried) and perhaps plus a tofu in egg sauce. Won’t this combination be better than having McD as lunch and obtain the required nutrients thru popping pills in order to achieve the so-called “balanced diet” ?

As for pregnant mummies, I have noticed 2 very popular phenomenons:

1) mummy eating unhealthy food with the thought that she can sourced the required nutrients thru the supplements;and

2) mummy popping all sort of supplements with the hope of “the more the better” for the baby and ends up putting on unnecessary weights on herself of which it will harm the pregnancy.

I also noticed that lots of parents are moving toward feeding their kids with supplements. Again, why is there such a need? Providing our kids with fresh food is definitely a better option. If we really love our kids, we definitely want the best for them. If so, why can’t we provide proper diet to our kids and have to depend on supplements? If you have already done so, that’s great and that’s all they need.  Stop feeling kiasu and stop believing in “the more the better”.  Over doing anything is never a good thing.

Conclusion

Eating in accordance to the food pyramid should be the way to go unless you have a strong reason of not having certain type of food thus you need to supplement it with pills. Do not just believe the advertisement or the sales personnel. They are meant to entice you believing in their products as they are paid to do so. Do your own research and read up those unbiased comments/advice and medical journal/research (not those sponsored by the supplements manufacturer). Be a smart and informed consumer.

As mentioned in the previous post, Bunny Gal has been demanding for her freedom whenever we are out. She is a cautious (a.k.a. kiasi)  toddler where she will only start moving/cruising around after she has familiarised with the place else she will just hug us like a koala.

So far, we have allowed her to walk around w/o harness at BSC Concourse, Garden Club Lounge and playground opposite Bunny Gong Gong’s house. She always has great time at the playround till she was smiling and kept calling “Gor Gor..Jie Jie..” (her playmates at the playground) in her dream. Bunny Gong Gong had captured some photos of her happy moments. She also had great time at BSC and the two guards on duty were playing hide and seek with her.

Running back & forth at BSC Concourse

Nowadays Bunny Dad and Bunny Mum will also set her free from stroller but with harness on at children department such as Robinson, Isetan and U Parkson where the environemnt is kids friendly, less crowded and more spacious for her to move around. Once she is on her feet, she will happily walking around, looking at clothings/shoes, playing with toys and even checking out the price tag! The only headache Bunny Dad faced is that Bunny Gal will only walk on her own pace and not his. She will insist to stay on at the same place for a long while slowly checking out what she is interested in. If we ever ask her move on, she will get really upset and show us her “i-am-gonna-cry” look.

Busy shopping at Isetan Garden